FACT: The way to a non-binary’s heart is to draw them a picture of themselves as a pony.
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
This one is actually a little bit true
no longer human, but not yet made of stars: 'New' Gender-neutral title
Some time last spring, I was wondering around the sci-fi section of my local public library, when I came across the book Counting Headsby David Marusek. I often find myself making random book selections, but this was by far the best to date. Besides being well-written, with a great plot, and pretty a rad view of future technologies, Marusek introduced me to one of my favorite new words.
.Myr.
I pronounce it such that it rhymes with purr, and it’s a (singular) gender-neutral title that I’ve started using in my everyday life.
Try it out! I’ve found that it rolls off the tongue really nicely.
“Nice to meet you, I’m Myr CIcada.”
“‘G’morning, Myr.”
“No, Myr, I don’t know how fast I was going…”
But it gets better! The plural is just as rad!
.Myren.
I pronounce this one as ‘my-wren’. It works as more than just a standard pluralization, though. Ever feel that job or other kinds of titles are wrongly-gendered for you to feel comfortable with them? The use of ‘-person’ as a suffix works for de-kyriarchizing singular titles, but ‘-people,’ or ‘-persons’ never felt good to me.
You either? Try out this title then: ‘Spokesmyren.’
Or: ‘Fishermyren.’ ‘Craftsmyren.’ ‘Salesmyren.’
And my favorite: ‘Gentlemyren.’I cannot express how much I love this.
I really like these a lot and I don’t usually like a lot of gender neutral pronouns which is why I don’t usually use them, but like the only problem I have is that I pronounced it more like mren when saying ‘gentlemyren’ aloud and it just sounded like the racist stereotypical asians pronouncing l’s as r’s thing, though mainly because saying it like ‘my’ kinda seems like really awkward sounding for some reason.
look gender neutral pronouns that don’t fucking suck from a purely linguistic and “you actually have to say them out loud” stand point
THIS. THIS IS A LOVELY WORD.
I think I might adopt this as my “title” rather than Mr/Mrs, because I never did like Mx much. But Myr is wonderful. (Although I’m pronouncing it slightly more like “meer” than “murr”, maybe somewhere in between?)
i really like this
I rather like this too. :3 I do like Mx, but I think I like Myr better.
This is wonderful, I hope this becomes popular!
If you say it “murr”, sounds in my head like a blur between all the M* titles, so it really seems natural to me. And also! “Murr”! Who does not like a word that sounds like a creature purring~
I think I want “Myr” to be my new title, it sounds a little therian too and I like it a lot better than “Miss”. And gender-neutral titles can be for everyone because the idea is that titles should not be gendered anyway, right? (Please tell me if I’m appropriating…)
Though, “Miss/Mr/Mrs” etc. always sounded strange to me anyway… I grew up with English and Japanese so I don’t know why this set should sound wrong to me because I always know them, but, [name]さん always sounds more natural to me (and it’s gender neutral)…
But I do like Myr ^v^
Love this! Definitely using it :)
I was trying to explain my gender to my therapist today. She noticed that I kept describing myself as ‘masculine’ instead of ‘male,’ and I explained that I’m not a transman, my gender is something else but I like to appear more masculine. She goes “oh! so you just want to be more butch?” I kind of wince and say “no, no not really.”* I explain that my gender is definitely not female, it’s not quite male, but it’s not really in between either. She says “oh so it’s like a mix?” I say no, not really. If you have male and female on a line, my gender is NOT somewhere between. My gender is somewhere off that line, somewhere not male, female, or in between. She finally goes “oh so you’re rather genderless then?” Yes!!
Later I try to explain some stuff about my body. I explain that I don’t want to be seen as a girl. If I’m walking in a public place, I would like people to see me as a boy or a man. I explained that even though I’m not male, I’d rather be seen as male because it’s better than being seen as female. People are used to a binary sex and they’re used to gendering people based on those ‘binary’ primary and secondary sexual characteristics. I exclaimed that I wish there was a third sex, one with obvious primary and secondary sexual characteristics. That way I could transition to that. Unfortunately there isn’t.
But I’m glad my therapist understood. She understood my gender extremely well and she understood my problems with my body (socially and physically) and that I’d like to change it to match my gender.
I’m very happy about this :)
*I realized at this moment that I’m really uncomfortable being referred to as ‘butch.’ As far as I know (please correct me if I’m wrong), ‘butch’ is usually used to refer to more masculine women, especially lesbians. I don’t want to be seen as a masculine woman, I want to be seen as a masculine/androgynous other.
There are times when I wonder if I’m really trans. I wonder if I’m making it all up, deluding myself because I hate femininity or something. I completely question my gender all over again.
When this happens, I try to think of myself as a woman. I try to think of myself, mind and body, as female, what I would feel and think if I was a woman. I try to think of myself as ‘she’ and ‘her.’ I try to do this to see if they go together, to see if they match or connect. To see if I’m actually a woman.
But it doesn’t work. My mind reels and backs away. It feels like two magnets pushing away from each other. It’s inconceivable. Me, a woman? Impossible. It will never work.
And I realize it never did.
201) I’m FAAB, but I’m so uncomfortable in my female body. I wish I had the body of a guy, minus the genitals, but I don’t identify as a guy either. I wear guys clothes, but I don’t want to seem like a lesbian because I love guys. I feel like no one will take me seriously because I’m not male or female identified. I feel so hopeless. :(
I’m just a girl with short hair
I’m just a girl who dresses like a boy
No matter what I do, I’m still a girl
I’ll always be a girl
That’s all everyone will ever see me as
“Why does she want to look like a boy?”
“She was so pretty as a girl.”
“She should wear earrings or she’ll look like a boy.”
“When will she look like a girl again?”
Leave me alone. Stop talking behind my back. Be a bigot to my face.
“Thank you, Miss.”
“Have a nice day, Ma’am.”
Why is it necessary? I look like a boy, at least I think I do. Stop forcing a gender on me. Stop implying “no matter how you dress you will always be a girl, and I will address you as such.” That’s what it sounds like when you say that.
My body gives me away, telling people the wrong cues, the wrong signals. People like to gender bodies, and they see mine and label it female, even though it’s not, so therefore I must be female too.
Stupid fucking voice.
Stupid fucking breasts.
Stupid fucking hips.
How I deal with nosy people
- Stranger: Are you a boy or a girl?
- Me: I'm Batman.
- Stranger: But-
- Me: I AM THE NIGHT
- Me: -zooms off in Batmobile to fight transphobia-
FACT: Non-binary people don’t actually have physical form, but rather occupy a clever human-like shell.
This lack of physical form allows them to teleport, travel through time, alter their appearance at will, communicate with animals, turn any metal into diamond, and any liquid into their alcoholic beverage of choice.
Sometimes I forget what my body looks like. Well, that’s not quite right. It’s not like I’m sitting on the couch, reading or something, and think “oh gosh I have no idea what my body looks like!” It’s more like, when I see my naked body in the mirror I forgot how “female” it looks, and it always surprises me. I don’t think of myself as female, and even when I look at myself in the mirror when I’m clothed I don’t think I look particularly female. So when I see my breasts, my curved body, and my lack of muscles, it always surprises me. It’s not like I’m expecting something else, like a flat chest or a penis or whatever. It’s like I’m not expecting anything, like nothing should be there at all.
I don’t know if this is related to being trans*/non-binary, or maybe I’m just dissociating again, or maybe it’s just absent-mindedness.
But does this happen to anyone else?
